Our lives are shaped by the choices we make and can be changed on a whim ; the snap of a finger or the blink of an eye .
If only we hadn't driven 'that ' way home , we would not have had that accident ; flat tyre ; run out of petrol .
If only we had taken the train instead of the bus we wouldn't have missed the job interview . The one that could have meant a new career , a new direction .
What would have happened if we had said "Yes" instead of "No" , or vice versa ?
And if we hadn't been in a certain place at a certain time we would never have met our partners , best friends , long lost relations , whatever !
The wonderings and "What if..." s go on in a never ending list .
I often wonder if I would do things differently if I had the chance to try again . Or would I make the same decisions , choose the same path ? Of course , I am assuming I would have the chance to make these choices with the benefit of hindsight . That would be the easy way . Wouldn't we all change "something" if we could ? Or perhaps you are all so contented with your lives that you would do it all again exactly as before ?
Its enticing to imagine that we could choose another direction , but, of course, our choices have a "knock on " effect . They involve other peoples lives too . If I had done things differently I may not have my children and delightful grand children , my dogs and my friends . But would I have another , different family ? I will never know .
I am wrestling with some difficult choices now , we all do every day . Whatever I decide , it will shape my life in the future . I made choices so lightly in the past , with all the carelessness of youth . But now I am older I have come to realise how one little decision can change everything .
I would love to hear what you think . Would you change anything ? Do you have regrets ?
I have thought carefully about those questions and have decided that , in the main , there is very little I would change . Just the odd thing , here and there . Although , perhaps in the 80s , I wouldn't have had a green streak in my hair !!